Life frustrations and how you can overcome them

Life frustrations and how you can overcome them
Kokomma Williams

There are no patterns or methods when it comes to frustrations, it can creep up on anyone at unexpected times.

Frustration is a feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something.
We all have different reasons behind our frustrations, and sometimes its complicated; which makes it hard to pin point exactly where it comes from, because once the source is found, you’ll be able to get back on track.
1. Learn from your mistakes/failures.
Its expected that one could feel frustrated by a failure, especially when they happen back-to-back, it causes us to shift our mentality, to that of a sense of lack and incompetence which leads to us being and feeling frustrated.
So, instead of seeing a setback as a failure, you should look at it as a lesson. Find out why it didn’t work and how you can do better next time around.
By changing your perspective on failure, you will be able to turn a setback into an opportunity for growth.
2. Take it one day at a time.
 the pressure of creating the right future and perfect life can and will put you under immense pressure which ultimately lead to anxiety.
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health issues experienced by people, especially the youth.
Without downplaying the importance of creating a plan for the future, it is good to note that you shouldn’t allow the fear and thought of the unknown destroy your peace and mood.
Instead,  focus on what you can achieve today explore the opportunities that today presents. Curb your procrastination and do the things you’ve been putting off for a later date. You have control over today, use it to the max!
3. Have compassion for others.
 As competitive as the world is these days, we must remember that our realities are different. Hence we all have different set of goals and timelines to achieving them.
The false reality that social media presents only adds fuel to the fire; as much as possible,  go offline once in a while and get in tune with what’s really going on in your life without feeling the pressure of seeing your peers or counterparts successes while you are still working on yours.
Trust the timing of your life, and do not feel the need to compare yourself with others. 
4. Feeling Stuck?
 sometimes life gets so monotonous and you feel like you can’t break free from a routine that is draining an often boring. The  good news is that we can break free.  Try doing something that you’ve always wanted to do, but felt like you couldn’t because the truth is –  you can do whatever you put your mind to.
5. Be grateful for what you have.
 Sometimes, life moves us so fast that we tend to always focus on our next move and seeking new ways of improvements. In as much as this is a good thing we must always remember to appreciate and be thankful for what we do have.
In as much as its important to strive for more, we must also be aware of the frustrations that comes with the pressure of wanting to achieve more;  we must always remind ourselves that it should never become a state of mind but rather a quick reaction that we can let go of. That way, we can allow ourselves to be grateful for the things we’ve achieved. 
Focus on the good and stay appreciative for the things you have.
6. Take back your power. 
Truthfully,  we cannot control everything in our lives but thankfully we can control or regain control and power in other areas of our lives.
Things like, other people’s emotions,sickness, weather are not within our sphere of control. Instead, find the things do have control over and focus on them. Like, staying fit, choosing those you allow into your circle, removing yourself form a toxic relationship,  learning a new skill of language. 
You will realise that you have more power than you are taking advantage of.
7. Acknowledge past pain and trauma
The frustration from past unresolved problems will/can lead you to feeling bad without knowing why.
The best way to move past it is by dealing with your past and loving on.
It can simply be by acknowledging your pain, getting a better understanding of yourself, emotions and reactions can help you let go of the frustration. 
Live in the present, believe in yourself and move on from the past pain. 
8. Face your fears.
Accumulated fears results in frustration. It usually begins small and builds up till it becomes bigger than we anticipated. 
It can be the:
-Fear of failure
-Fear of the unknown
-Fear of no reward
-Fear that you are not worthy
-Fear of rejection 
-Fear of revealing yourself
-Fear of being judged
-Fear of being unstructured & illogical 
-Fear that you are not a creative person 
The only thing you can do to fight your fear is to start taking baby steps today and do the things that you’re scared of.
You can find ways you can overcome difficulties and see how creative you are
-Find ways to try new things without reaping the consequences of failure that may be too big to cope with.
-Try letting go of control in some of the tightly managed parts of your life.
It’s almost never as bad as we think and afterwards you end up feeling free and lifted. 
If you would like to to have a one-on-one discussion about some of the fears you may be experiencing, please send an email to with the Subject: One on one consultation and I will take it from there.
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I look forward to reading your comments and email. 


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